Thursday, November 22, 2012

Women Security Managers - The Door is Wide Open

Over the years, I have seen many male security managers. I have also seen a slow but positive increase in female managers due to the changing face of the security industry.
I started in this industry when it was still ruled with an iron fist and fairly narrow viewpoints, which greatly inhibited women from taking any serious roles as supervisors or managers.
Women were looked down on as someone who could not get the job done and someone who could not be relied upon in the security field. Why? Because it is a relatively male dominated industry which fertilisers such theories so the gender door can remain tightly shut.
Years ago, when I worked for a security company we were one of the very few who promoted women security guards into positions of leadership. We did this because we believed that women have quite a different way of dealing with situations than most men.
I needed to try this so I could enhance and protect our contract which increasingly relied on PR skills and the need to interact with any one in the public arena.
I did not have any male security guards at that time whom I trusted to see both sides of a situation and who could use a calm approach in the first instance.
This paid off for my company greatly and not only impressed the client but also enabled us to expand and grow the business contracts because of this lateral way of conducting our business.
Clients, security employers, and managers are looking for that multitasking and lateral way of dealing with situations today, because we need to be much more aware of how situations can be dealt with effectively. This is because if an issue ends up in the hands of lawyers this can equal insurance liabilities = not good.
Therefore, the stakes are high.
I am confident that women can have a very good and rewarding career in today's security industry because it is always evolving and always seeking new and more efficient ways of getting the job done.
Unfortunately, women managers are still placed under a microscope to some degree; this is a boy's club mentality, which will still be around for a while yet.
Here are a few success tips for new women security supervisors/managers.
You need respect; you do not need to be liked.
o Men are looking for emotion when you make an important security decision, if you make a decision with the 'appearance' of lack of feeling or emotion you will gain respect faster.
o You need to be careful not to appear to close or chatty with any male members. This can open the door for presumptions of lack of professionalism.
o Never tell anyone you do not know what you are doing or that you are unsure. Males can sometimes get away with this - you will not.
o Instead, say that you will get back with that answer straight away because you always like to present the best answer and you do not compromise on quality - then get that answer ASAP!
o Practice being decisive every day; do not project any thing less - ever.
o Do not be late for work. This will be taken as a 'women thing' and it will work against you.

Divorce Advice - Begin the Divorce Process With Eyes and Ears Wide Open

Once it becomes inevitable that your marriage will be ending in divorce, most people just want to get through the process and be done with it. In the area where I live I am amazed at how quickly the divorce process can be completed, compared to when I went through my divorce.

If you are in the process of a divorce, this is likely a difficult time for you emotionally and possibly physically. Divorce is typically a stressful, painful and challenging time. You may be feeling angry, devastated, rejected, hopeless, sad, hurt, vulnerable, pressured and/or depressed.

It is generally safe to assume that you are not currently "at your best." To make matters worse, you are now faced with making very important decisions. The anticipated changes and comprehending all the details involved with divorce can be overwhelming. You could probably use some help about now. Let's start with some tips.

Tips to Consider as You Enter the Divorce Process

Be cautious moving forward. You can not always trust your STBX (soon-to-be-x) to be looking out for your best interest - just because he/she says they will. Take off any blinders and keep your eyes and ears wide open.

Do not be afraid to ask for help from family or friends. Especially in the area of expertise; financial, attorney recommendations, counselors, career, children.

Be willing to accept help from those who offer. Allow people to do things for you to help make your life easier or lighten the load during this difficult time. For example watching your children, doing some household chore, taking over an obligation you may have made to volunteer or serve.

Be willing to listen to sound advice from knowledgeable individuals. Now is the time to network with people you know and draw upon their expertise and/or connections. Understand your STBX may not approve of others opinions or recommendations. This does not mean you should not listen or consider the advice being given.

Human nature (or pride) does not easily accept help. You may like to think you can handle whatever comes your way. You may be embarrassed or ashamed that your marriage failed and decide to avoid other people and their desire to help. Their help, advice or expertise may be just what you need.  

A Recipe for Potential Disaster

What can happen in the divorce process, you have people who are broken and hurting having to make major decisions about their futures and finances in a relatively short period of time. If you are coming from a marriage where one person manipulated and controlled another, or the relationship was abusive or dysfunctional, the person(s) is most likely not very healthy emotionally. Yet, they are expected to make major decisions and try to reach agreements with the very person who no longer wants to be married to them, or to whom they no longer want to be married.

In a situation where the process moves quickly, a couple is forced to make important decisions fast. When you consider the communication between a couple is strained and even less effective than when they were married, you may have a recipe for potential disaster.

Creatures of Habit

Out of habit, a couple is likely to resort to the way they communicated when they were married. For example, if the husband was manipulative or controlling in the relationship and the wife was passive and compliant, the husband may expect the wife to agree to his proposals in the divorce settlement. The wife out of habit may comply and agree to whatever is proposed.

If this scenario sounds familiar, if you are the submissive compliant partner from your marriage, be sure to get help with your divorce process. Hire an attorney who will stick up for you, represent you fairly, and look out for your best interest. You can not always trust your former spouse to look out for your best interest. If your STBX was controlling and manipulative when you were married, guess what, he/she is hoping to control and manipulate the divorce settlement as well.

Do It Yourself Divorce

Divorces can be extremely expensive today. More couples are tempted to try and avoid the expense of attorney's and reach an agreement on their own. Although it sounds like a great idea, it does not always work out as amicably as you may anticipate. I know several people who have attempted this route, unsuccessfully.

If you choose to avoid using an attorney for the process, I encourage you to elicit the help of a close friend or relative with financial wisdom to help ensure you get a fair deal. If possible, hire a financial person to review the division of assets to make sure it is an equitable agreement for both parties. In some cases, you can hire a mediator with a financial background.

Be Prepared to Stand Up For Yourself or Get Representation

My advice to you, it is cheaper to get the divorce agreement done right the first time around, than to incur the expense to change the agreement once it has been settled. Don't agree to something that you do not believe is fair. Take the opportunity to discuss it with a person looking out for your best interest.

In the past you may have agreed to whatever your spouse said or wanted in your marriage, but that does not mean you have to agree to whatever he/she proposes in a divorce agreement/settlement. You may be inclined to agree automatically out of habit and to avoid conflict. I would encourage you to stand up for yourself and children (if you have them).

Your STBX may insist that his/her proposal is a fair deal. Be prepared that he/she may try to coerce you, push your buttons, threaten to change something not in your favor, smooth talk, and/or manipulate you as he/she has done in the past.

My advice to you, don't buy it. If it truly is a fair deal then he/she should not have a problem with you getting help or advice from a third party. You need to be responsible and look out for yourself, any children and your future. If you do not feel strong enough to represent yourself, then get someone who can and will represent your best interest.

Disclaimers: *This advice should not be taken as automatically do not agree to your spouse's proposal for a settlement. If in fact your spouse does propose an acceptable settlement to which you agree, then good for you. What a blessing.

**This article and advice is not intended or directed to those who have a great relationship with their soon to be former spouse. If you are able to have an amicable divorce process and settlement, you are in the minority. I commend you.          

Copyright 2009 Shelley Grieser All Rights Reserved.

I am a Christian Life Coach specializing in Broken Marriages. I work with men and women across the country who are on their path to recovery from divorce, to empower them to create a future they truly desire. When we are accountable to someone we are more likely to succeed. When what we do is recognized, cheered and affirmed, we perform at a higher level. People getting divorced rarely have someone to hold them accountable and support them during this time of transition from married to single. As a coach who has walked the path of divorce, and been a child of divorce, it is my passion and desire to come alongside others on this journey to help them make this transition and create a future filled with hope.
Please visit me at: http://www.ahopefilledfuture.com

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Monday, October 8, 2012

Explore Paris with Eyes Wide Open

Politics aside, it's generally agreed upon that Paris is one of the most charming and culturally rich places to visit anywhere in the world. Its constant presence in literature and song, its popular fashions, and the fact that it serves as the backdrop to so many movies, works of art, and closely-held personal memories cannot be overshadowed by a few international disagreements and spats that go so far as to involve the nomenclature of fried potatoes. Paris grabs everyone's attention at some point, so if it hasn't drawn you in yet, expect to feel its pull soon enough.

With its arrondissements, quartiers, and rues, Paris makes the simple act of looking at a map feel like a romantic adventure. It's true that getting around might be a challenge; but luckily becoming lost along a cobblestone street lined with cafes that serve the finest coffee and pastries you've ever had isn't likely to irk you too much. In fact, go ahead and venture out with no particular itinerary in mind for the quickest way to immerse yourself in the dynamic atmosphere of this delightful city. After this one-of-a-kind getting to know you session, you'll be ready to see the famous sites in a more traditional way (saving room for more impromptu explorations in between, of course).

There is so much to take note of in Paris; hopefully you've stolen enough time away from work to properly fit everything in without having to rush around like a mad person. The museums alone could take years to allow every painting, sculpture, and trinket to be admired for all they are worth. From the Musee d'Orsay, where the impressionist masterpieces dwell, to the Louvre, where the Mona Lisa and a few other familiar faces will welcome you to the City of Light, you will achieve the odd sensation of replacing a dim representation of something with the brilliance of the real thing. This goose bump-inducing feeling is what separates pleasant vacations from marvelous ones.

Let the thrilling chills continue to rise up your spine as you seek out the Eiffel Tower, L'Arc de Triomphe, Notre Dame, and all the other places you'll know more intimately from now on. In addition to the attention-grabbing major players, there are also countless Parisian gems that may end up edging out the others as your favorite sights. Take the stairs of Montmartre for example, or the Palais Garnier. If these don't sound familiar, it's best to check them out on your own once you've unpacked your bags.

Even fashion neophytes know that Paris is a heaven for designers and purchasers of clothing, jewelry, handbags, and shoes. From haute couture to bargain racks, you'll find what it is you're looking for in the major shopping districts and sprinkled among the banks and patisseries, so be prepared to spend some time gazing into shop windows at all the awe-inspiring wares. Whether you bring home silly souvenirs, up-to-the-minute fineries, or more likely, a little of both, you'll find Paris to be highly satisfactory when it comes to delivering the goods.

If you must, you can boil it down to neo-classical architecture, red wine, and a deeply entrenched cultural heritage, but Paris is so much more. It deserves to be explored with eyes wide open and every other sense acting on highest alert. You'll taste amazing foods, hear the pleasing lilt of the French language, and smell the aromas of fresh baguettes, flower filled jardins, and the fruits of some of the finest vineyards in the world. Paris deserves some time and attention, so come with the willingness to learn and the energy to wander. You won't be disappointed by your efforts to become acquainted with one of the world's most intriguing regions, and you'll likely return home feeling a bit more understanding and content with the knowledge that you've expanded your world view significantly.

To truly embrace this rendezvous with the city of romance, you'll want to make your lodging experience just so. Paris is filled with hotels that range from modest hostels to luxurious suites, but don't overlook the possibility of living like a local and reserving an elegant apartment or studio. Especially if you decide to stay for a while in order to truly get a feel for this European jewel, you'll enjoy the experience of settling into a home-like residence

outfitted with conveniences like a cute kitchen and special touches like a d├ęcor truly worthy of the adjective chic. Each property is different, so spend a little time picking out the one that best suits your needs, and more importantly, that holds the potential for the most divine enchantments.

No matter how you define the details, your trip to Paris is sure to be a treat. Study the guidebooks, recall the advice you've been given from Francophiles, and go online to select one of the many Paris Apartments that will likely speak to your adventurous soul. Everything seems to be coming together for a wondrous trip, so as they say, bon voyage.

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Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Hate to Meditate? Simple, Secular Eyes-Wide-Open Alternative Helps Those Who Sit, Then Quit

In a culture that embraces Adderall, paying attention has become the most sought-after skill for those looking for a competitive edge. From blurry-eyed college applicants to top executives, the ability to focus on what matters most is the key to coping - and competing - despite the stresses of daily life.

How do frazzled folks find calm and clarity in the middle of chaos? According to the National Center for Complementary and Alternative Medicine (NCCAM), an estimated 10 million people in the United States have turned to regular meditation.

That's great. Really, it is. But the real challenge is reaching out to the 95% of the population that isn't into meditation.

We want to meditate. Or, more precisely, we want to WANT to meditate! But we have our own barriers for starting or continuing a consistent meditation practice. The good news: we CAN develop greater mindfulness without sitting in meditation!

I watched my clients' eyes glaze over at the mere mention of meditation, so I created mindfulness exercises that are enjoyable and easy for anyone to do during a typical crazy day in the Real World. As a teacher and facilitator with my own 30-year meditation practice, I decided to zero in on two key elements: motivation and relevant learning style.

It's not difficult to be mindful-it's just hard to REMEMBER to be mindful. And so what we need are simple, fun activities to engage in and readily-available cues to remind us to pop into mindfulness mode while we're doing them.

The key to EASILY adopting a new daily habit is to start with something you love to do. Knitting? Running? Gardening? Start with activities you find appealing and your natural enthusiasm will ensure that you continue!

Next up: make sure to develop mindfulness in the same way you PREFER to learn any new skill. Through words? Movement? Visual cues? Music? Being in nature? Spending time in conversation with others? The more you build your natural learning style into your mindfulness practice, the more likely you are to make it a seamless part of your daily routine.

As a mother of four kids, I understand how powerful play can be as a motivating force in learning new skills. We can increase awareness by finding interesting cues that remind us to practice paying attention wherever we are. You can develop their own creative collection of mindfulness triggers-and the quirkier, the better! Even the McDonald's Golden Arches can serve as a reminder to pay attention.

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